Thursday, January 29, 2009
We don't often give much thought to the blood work of early pregnancy. Many of us never hear another word about those droplets given in the early weeks. However, one of the tests performed with this blood is a blood type and factor screening.
In addition to the blood group (A, B, O, AB), the Rh factor is written as either positive (present) or negative (absent). Most people are Rh positive. This factor does not effect your health except during pregnancy.
A woman is at risk when she has a negative Rh factor and her partner has a positive Rh factor. This combination can produce a child who is Rh positive. While the mother's and baby's blood systems are separate there are times when the blood from the baby can enter into the mother's system. This can cause the mother to create antibodies against the Rh factor, thus treating an Rh positive baby like an intruder in her body. If this happens the mother is said to be sensitized.
A sensitized mother's body will make antibodies. These antibodies will then attack an Rh positive baby's blood, causing it to breaking down the red blood cells of the baby and anemia will develop. In severe cases this hemolytic disease can cause illness, brain damage and even death.
Sensitization can also occur during a blood transfusion, miscarriage, abortion, ectopic pregnancy and even during some procedures, like amniocentesis. Since the antibodies do not disappear and rarely cause a problem in first pregnancies, it is very important to be screened thoroughly and give an accurate medical history to your doctor or midwife.
The Good News
Hemolytic disease can be prevented for many women, if they are not already sensitized. Rh immunoglobulin (RhIg) is a blood product given via injection to help the Rh negative mother by suppressing her ability to react to the Rh positive red cells. Reactions to the medication are generally minor, including soreness at the injection sight and sometimes a slight fever.
Since a small number of unsensitized women may have problems with the end of pregnancy, many practitioners recommend that she be given an injection of RhIg (also known as Rhogam) at 28 weeks gestation, to prevent the few cases of sensitization that occur at the end of pregnancy. Each dose of RhIg lasts about 12 weeks. The mother will also be given RhIg within 72 hours of birth if the child is Rh positive. The baby's blood type can be determined easily after birth by cord blood samples.
RhIg may also be given after an amniocentesis, miscarriage, abortion or postpartum sterilization (tubal ligation).
There are about 5,000 cases of hemolytic disease that will occur each year. A mother who is Rh sensitized will be screened throughout her pregnancy to see if the baby has hemolytic disease. Some babies who have hemolytic disease will have uncomplicated pregnancies and be born at a normal gestation. Other babies will suffer severely and require the birth to be done earlier. Blood transfusions can be given both before and after birth for these severely affected infants.
If you have questions about the Rh factor or whether or not you are in this group of women, do not hesitate to ask your doctor or midwife for the results of your blood work.
The thing about this test is, i had to get my blood drawn first, then drink glucose, which tasted obsolutely horrible, YUKKKK. It was extra FIZZY and Sweet and just had this horrible taste to it. Can you imagine the first thing dem give mi so bright and early in the morning was some taste bad drinks? Steeeeeups. After forcing myself to drink that bottle of nastiness i had to sit around and wait for a hour for a next blood test. Thank God i brought a book with me or else it would have been the longest wait of my life. The lab tech took my blood and i had to go back to the 2nd floor ( maternity floor) to get my shot.
You see, when you go to your first OBGYN appointment, they will have you do these test and one of them tells you your blood type. This is really important cause your blood type plays a big roll. I didn't know all this untill i was told i'm O-. This means, if Kwame's blood type is positive so is the "Queen Mother's". The "queen mother" is not in harms way but the future babies would be if this goes untreated. What would happen is, should the baby get a bruise while making her grand intrance into this world, her blood would get into my system and my body would detect it as foreign, develop antibodies right away and distroy it. If this goes untreated, my future babies could be brained damage because of anemia or worse dies. SOOOOO i have to get a Rhogam (Rh immuno globulin) shot, right on the butt cheek. This was my first ever butt shot and i must say it wasn't bad at all. This Rhogam shot isn't my last one, i have to get one 72 hours after delivery and the baby will also get tested to see if she has a positive or negative blood type.
I think they were wicked to send me to triage department lol. I had to sit and watch the women twisting up there bodies in all kind alphabetical letters cause they were in serious pain. It was fun hearing the many babies heart beats. But maaan it was nice hearing the screams when the labour pains lick de women. I guess the nurse saw the horrific look on my face and she smile and said " u are next" lol. In my head i was like you people might want to kick me out on the street when the pain hits me and whatever drugs i ask for at the time you would gladly give it with no hesitation lol.
I was soooo happy to bounce on out of there cause laawd geez man de oman dem face didn't look propah at alllll when de pain was kicking their asses.
Guys, i am terrified. I scurrred bad, bad badddddd.
LOl, i think 2008 was breeding season. First my hygenist revealed to me that she is pregnant and due in May. This visit, she tells me the whole office breeding, i was like what the hell? She says it must be the water, i had to let her know that i doh drink water, my water has to have colour in it and smells like rubbing alcohol or something stronger than that. I know, i know, i'm a rum head. Sigh, I cannot wait to taste rum on my tongue.
I know some of you did, messaging me to write more and all ah ask mi wah mi ah deal wid as if i'm not allowed to take a break lol.
I had the flu guys. The first time in my life i've had the flu and wasn't drunk. I could not beleive it. Dat is a sin if you ask me. I couldn't even get high off the Robitussin like i usually do, this pregnancy ting is flopping my need to get high and drunk, it nuh nice. I had to suffer, head was pounding and there was not one shitting ting i could do but pop 1 single likkle regular strength Tylenol. What the hell is that? that crap did nothing for me. Uhmm before all the know it all's come in here and start to shake head at me taking Tylenol, i can take Tylenol. I just cannot take advil or aspirins as they are blood thinners. GO read bout it before unuh jump down my throat.
So yes man, all i did was wrap up in bed all day, vicks up, drink soup and sleep it off. Talking about soup. Do you guys drink Lipton noodle soup when you are sick? After drinking it don't you feel 100% better after? I think they put some kind of drugs in dem soups, i am convinced.
I'm not even surprised that i caught the flu because Toronto is just all over the place with their weather. Plus i did tell you guys that a furnace was miraculously placed in my body so even when its freezing out i'm hot and sweating as if i'm running a friggin marathon lol. For this reason and this reason only, all my babies will be spring babies. I'll make sure of it lol.
Speaking of cold and feeling hot. Ihave a friend who is also pregnant and we email each other pretty often sharing our experiences. Amanda, i know you think i was weird and u laughed at me when i told you that i sneeze when i'm hungry, but sista fren says when it's cold outside her nipples tingle and feels as if they are on fire lol. I burst out laughing while i was reading the email.
I haven't been up to much. The "project" is on back burner for the rest of the week. I'm still resting. I went to my friends baby shower last Saturday, was a cool event. We went couple hours before the shower to get the gift. Wutless i know, allyuh doh do dat to mi pleassse lol, cause some of the stuff has to come from the warehouse so take your tails to the place days before THANKS VERY MUCH lol.
Thursday, January 22, 2009
Yesterday i woke up when Mr. man was going to work, we chatted untill he was off and i didn't have the balls to go back to sleep. So i brushed my teeth and made some breakfast and watched CNN murder the inauguration over and over and over again. I watched anyway cause it was still exciting. As usual i made my play list of the music i was feeling to listen to for the day and made myself a crazy mix of tunes. Honestly i think i'm the only person that could listen to it lol. It's just a cd filled with random tunes. I LOVE IT. I was missing, Rashida and went in search for her on gmail and VOILA, there she was and we chatted for a bit before i went upstairs.
Upstairs i went, but not before loading the cd changer though. I finished up the "office"and i threw away a garbage bag of papers. I know you are reading and let me repeat " I DID NOT THROW ANYTHING OF YOURS AWAY". I just had to make that clear, cause as soon as something of his goes missing he will blame me. I'm telling you, i really burst some sweat yesterday you know. I must have walked up and down those stairs about 10 times and this house is filled with stairs. I had some books in the basement and i took my time carrying them up untill i was all done and now the office looks like an office. Thanks to me.
I was thinking about doing some squats and ting but i was like woman, is yuh crazy or what?. As if walking up on down those wicked stairs wasn't exercise enough for 1 day. I know i burnt a whoooooole lot of calories plus some and i can feel the effects of all the walking in my butt and thighs today. That means i did something right.
According to me i'll work like dem cuntry women, up to the day i give birth lol (we'll see about that). It will be a little different cause aint no rivers to wash clothes in here in canada and i doh have to go to the bush to find fire wood to cook mi dinner. No water holes go go and get a bucket of water to drink or to cook food. However i will find things to keep me sane and active. Dem cuntry oman real tuff and trong (strong) yuh know. Some of dem will be outside feeling contractions in their asses and still scrubing clothes and you wouldn't even know the baby coming untill they can't take it anymore. My aunt had a baby in the next room while i was home sick one day and i didn't even know untill i heard a baby scream. I jumped out the bed cause i wanted to know where the puss noise was coming from. Uhmm the older ladies kicked me out the room and slammed the door in my face, damn out of order lol. Now i look back at it and its amazing that i did not hear a peep from my aunt. Maaan, if that was me dem would hear my mouth all de way ah Negril and that's half an hour drive away from where i lived.
Since last week Mr. Man says we should start going out again, seriously we do nothing and we are fine with it. If he should ask if i want to do something, i'll just say no lets go get a movie. BORINNG, i know but that is just me and he is pretty much the same. Anyway, i asked what we were doing and he said he doh know yet, we'll do anything, just jump in the car and just go. I'm not picky so i said kool with me. He told me to get ready by 6pm. I was fully dressed you know but i wanted to eat something before i go so you know the man had to come in the house and wait for me lol. I just can't never be on time, sad. While we were driving i asked him where we were headed. He said most likely downtown. I was like ok. He asked if i still wanted to see Dirty Dancing. i was a little suspicious when he mentioned Dirty Dancing and i asked if he boughttickets, he said no. He also mentioned that Batman is out on IMAX and i was equally excited to see it. He said ok let's go and try to see if we can get a ticket for Dirty Dancing. We listened to music and chat and laugh. When we reached downtown we parked underground. When we exited the elevator we were standing in the Princess of Whales Theatre where The Sound of Music is running. He asked if i wanted to check out The Sound of Music instead, i thought for a moment then shook my head no. When we exited the building to walk to the Royal Alexandria Theatre, i suddenly had a change of heart. We turned back to see if tickets were still available for The Sound of Music and there were. The ticket agent quoted the price and Kwame was like ok, we'll be back in a minute, we'll see how much the other one cost firts. When we arrived at the Royal Alexndria all i heard was " Kwame Smart". I turned around with this big kid smile on my face saying, i knew it, i knew you bought the tickets lol. He got me gooooood ya'll. Apparantly when i had my little change of heart he was shitting bricks and wondering how he was going to play it off lol. The Show was GREAT. If you are lover of the movie, you will love it onstage. Nobody puts my baby in a corner, heheheeeee.
Sitting for so long was hard though, i really felt it in my back and my rib cage. It was just uncomfortable. I found myself struggling to keep the giggles in because this baby was just hilarious during the show. It's like she heard music and she just leggo lol. She was beating on my belly sooo hard it was moving, i could see little pokes here and there. I was like aaw baby enjoying herself too. It was a fun night, We Will Rock You is next. HEHEHE.
Wednesday, January 21, 2009
I hope the new year is treating you well. As for the I and I? I'm good and blessed.
Last week i started my practicum at a walk in clinic. Jah know at the end of the day my ass cheeks hurt so bad. I haven't walked that much in sooo long. My bad ankle is still sore and my back was killing me. 1 more week to go. It was horrible but i survived it. All i kept saying was pregnancy should be a disability lol.
Before i start, can i vent for a bit?. I am sick and tired of these marraige/ring happy facking people asking me when i'm getting married or if i got a ring yet. ARGGHHHHHH, Marraige isn't the end all or be all, i am happy, FANTASTICO. We are a family married or not so not sure why the people getting shit twisted as if you have to be married to be a family. We will get married when wi good and ready. Ask mi if the baby will have a roof over her head, how the bills getting paid, if i have food in my fridge or something that is on the higher archy of needs but please stop asking me about things that are really not important right now. Besides we doh have money to be feeding people for free unless dem want eat dry bun and cheese with sugar and water at the reception. WOOOOOSAAAAAAAH.
Ok now that i got that off my chest let me fill you all in on the things people do not tell you about being pregnant. Cause most people just focus on the labour or the morning sicknesses. People this is my 25th week going on 26th, on the 29th will be 28 weeks. SEVEN (7) flickin months. (Jazzy, i'm finally catching on to the weeks and months). Wednesday will be my last day riding in the second trimester car. It was a smoothe ride but i gotta move on to hopefully an even smoother ride.
(1) They do not tell you that your belly itches constantly. I have all kinds of oils; bio oil, baby oil, shea butter and i am always lathering my belly cause i don't want to be scratching.
(2) They do not tell you that a furnice is miraculously placed inside your body and no matter how cold it is outside, you are HOT!!!!
(3) They definately do not tell you that inside your abdomen could be sooooo sore because your belly is stretching.
(4) AND dem damn lie when they say you become more sexual during your second and third trimester. DAMN LIES lol, well in my case it is a LIE.
(5) They didn't tell me that it's ok if the baby isn't always active. For 2 days i was going crazy thinking something is wrong with this child cause she was not moving or atleast i couldn't feel her. The doctor says it's normal. Well you know i buff up the child and tell her doh eva do such chupidness again cause i cannot deal with it. I guess she is a good listener cause now she kicks all over and HARDER, even places i didn't think she could reach. What a spiteful likkle girl.
My little cousins can feel the kicks and Kwame, mr "i have no feelings", still cannot. So i stop calling him to feel. I just sit there and enjoy the craziness all by myself.
Oh, i am weighing a WHOPPING 141 LBS. Can you beleive that ish? I must be the most happiest fat girl EVER. I don't know where the food is going. Must be in my hair and butt cause i am still small. The best part is i'm still getting macked. Then again they only see me when i'm wearing scrubs and my bump isn't noticeable. It still feels good though lol. Besides all that, nothing else is happening, this weekend coming up we are going to look at furnitures, strollers and car seats, create a registery at Sears and buy some little stuff for myself. I keep forgetting i have to buy things for myself. Things like; Breast pads, nursing bra's and night gowns for the hospital. Those things sound so foreign to me lol.
Well that's all she wrote folks. Untill next time. P.S. i'll take pics next weekend, feeling too tired and lazy right now. tek care, walk good and stay blessed.
Lol, that was like 2 weeks ago and dem still didn't get the pics yet. Hahahahaaaaaaaa. Dem gonna kill meeeeee.
Tuesday, January 20, 2009
This morning i woke up at 9 am. Showered, brushed my teeth, dressed and made myself some breakfast. I sat myself infront of the television and tuned in to CNN. I wanted to go to school to hand in my evaluation and my hours but i had noooo intention of leaving the house before Obama takes his oath, afta dem paper nuh more important than what i was about to witness. Yuh mad? I was supposed to meet up with one of my classmates too so i called her to give her the heads up and she too wasn't leaving her house untill after the oath. I continued watching the inaug. while i ate my breakfast and i can remember i got chills looking at the crowd. U'd think it was a Beatles concert or something. Unbeleivable, looking at the people in the crowd was like looking at beautiful rainbow. Everyone was there to witness the change.
You folks got a hot first lady and the likkle girl dem sell off!!!!! Malia and Sacha to de WORLLL!!
Tonight will be a great night for Michelle, her dreams of getting daggered in the white house has finally come true. raeeeeeee. Although Amanda thinks they already took a quicky in the bathroom on prior visits LMAO.
While all this was going on "queen mother" was having a grand old time on the inside. I think she felt the Obama fever too and was partying it up. Sometimes it feels like she is knocking on my belly as if its a door, screaming, LET ME OUT!, then other times i just feel she is evil cause she kicks me in some places i never knew her tiny limbs could reach. There are also moments i can see a part of my belly poking out and i try to guess which limb it is. (hands, elbows, knees or feet).
I continued watching the inauguration in anticipation, while smiling at what was happening inside of me. Couple times i managed to hold back some tears, because this day has been along time coming. So many people have died fighting for this moment and i am sure today they were rejoicing because the dream Martin had is no longer a dream. All the little black boys and girls now have true role model to look up to. Obama is a prime example of nothing comes for free, you have to work your ass off to get to where you want to go and the only person that can hold you back is YOU. I really wish Black America would stop looking at him as their God and Saviour and hoping their lives will get much better because a black man is now in office. Your life is going to be the same as you are not doing anything to change it, the men hanging on the streets selling drugs and killing each other will continue to go to jail because they choose that lifestyle. Only you can change your destiny, Obama cannot trod your road for you, he's already walking his. Ok i'm getting a little bit carried away. But mek i cuss Mr. Al Sharpton fuss. That little sensationalist. The only time you see that clown is when something is going down. He is never around when anything positive is going on and when he is, he's busy sipping on haterade.
I was watching the the Obama story on BET couple nights ago and this little foolio said " if at the end of his term, black men are still going to jail in numbers, then Obama being president would have been for nothing" WTF? is he serious?
Anywho lol, you remember that project i'm supposed to be doing? Well nothing got done today. Right after the oath, i went to school. I did walk to and from the bus stop though, hehehe. Not a bad walk especially in all that snow and cold. I got home pretty late cause i was out browsing in stores.
Tomorrow the hard work starts for the President and for me too.
Monday, January 19, 2009
I woke up early because for the past 2 weeks i've been waking up early, but u know me, knowing i had nothing to do today i went back to bed for a lil nap and woke up at 9:30. I had to make a few phone calls but guess what? the frickin cordless was dead, thanks to certain somebody. Sooooo, i had to wait a whole hour just to use the phone.
While waiting i had some breakfast, well not much of a breakfast, just bagel with some tea and grapes. I watched the mom show and had a couple conversations on msn untill finally i got 2 bars on the phone.
A phone call that should have taken no less than half an hour including waiting time took me 2 whole hours. Can you believe that ISH? and at the end i didn't even get what i wanted, steeeeeeeeeeeeups.
After that draining phone call i had to get something to put in my belly plus i had promised myself that i would start working on my project. I ate, made 2 cd's because i cannot clean without listening to music. It just wouldn't get done, well not today any way. So i made my cd's put them in and went up stairs to start on the big project that is supposed to last me till this child makes her grand entry. I'm quiet sure unuh wondering what this big project is all about. Well since i will be in this house untill April, i'll be cleaning it from top to bottom. There are 3 spear rooms and the tings in them either needs a home or to go in the garbage, Soo i'll be sorting them out 1 by 1.
Today i started in what will be the baby's room. Kwame uses it as his work shirts room, he jsut have dem fling dung in de room. Laawd this man has clothes in every frickin room. Anywho, i put the shirts on hangers and hung them in his closet, whether he knows that is his closet or not cause we cyaan share one closet, not possible lol. He also used the room to store his luggages, as if the basement not big enough for them so i took them out. I also folded the laundry and put them away, organized the drawers and ting. Lol, i tell yuh when yuh bored, yuh bored.
Did i mention while i was cleaning i was busy following Beanie man's advice and "tek de miggle and whine gyal" lol. You should have seen me, whining down the place and backing it up like nobody's business. Even whining down low, then realise i couldn't get back up. My poor waistline was hurting a bit after all that work out but it's ok now. By the time i was through ( the "office" isn't completely done) it was 4:30 and i had to start cooking.
And that ladies and gentlemen was my day. Tomorrow is a next day.
I forget to mention the rest of the plan. Along with prettifying the house, i'll be throwing in some exercises daily. I'll go for walks, do some exercises from my P90X, not the whole hour, cut the work out down to 20-30 mins. Just the aerobics, yoga, plyometrics and some free wieghts for my arms. Nothing strenuous. Oh yes and read some interesting books, i need to get my tail to indigo ASAP.
That's all folks.
Sunday, January 18, 2009
Looking for car seats and strollers is like shopping for a car. These things comes with all kind of features. They have this new stroller that shows the temperature, i was like WTF? Next thing you know they will be adding hydraulics, rims, speakers, video and cd changer.
SEARS, what a hot mess of a place. I was told it's a good place to register, i tried registering online but it just wasn't happening. They didn't have much to choose from. I thought the store would be much better, oh boy was i wrong. First of all walking into the baby department you'd think it was the day after boxing day. No order to the place. The strollers were ugly, car seats were even uglier, They had like 3 cribs on display. The young girl who helped me kept refering to the baby catalogue as if it was any different from the store, scanty just the same. After catching a headache from being so confused and annoyed, i scanned couple things and bolted.
We went to Babies R US. I had already registered online but i wanted to see the strollers and car seats in person before adding them. When i walked in, i felt waaay lighter. The place was bright, clean and organized. I found my stroller travel system, a play pen and a basinet. I also saw other things that were not available on the website. You know i went crazy with the scanner right? lol.
At one point i paused for a second and said to my cousin "oh my gosh i'm shopping for a baby, my baby, can you beleive it"? lol
We saw a crib that we liked. Real solid wood that transforms into a day bed and a double bed. However, the young lady who assisted us told us that alot of cribs were recalled and they would be getting new ones in the upcoming months. SO, we decided to hold out on getting a crib untill we see what they come with next. You know i had to cuss the lil dry head gyal at Sears in my head right? for someone with 2 children and expecting again, she shouldn't have withhold such vital information from a first timer. What if i did get one of those cribs and de bottom drop out with the baby in it eeeh?
You know what else i found confusing? those rockers. They have way too many to choose from and they alllll have the same features. Boy, i did settle on one though but i don't know if i like it. I'll go back to the website to check out the others and the reviews.
I don't know if i'm missing anything. I just have to buy stuff for myself and stock up on diapers (2's and 3's) and whipes.
Wednesday, January 14, 2009
- Urinating.......My gaawd, literally every 15-20 mins i have to be running to the bathroom. Movies or tv shows are constantly being put on pause because i cannot sit through them. (thank God for PVR). I tried not having anything to drink after 8pm each night but i realized it made no difference.
- Headaches..... I used to get headaches once in a blue moon, when i'm stressed or those odd days when i don't eat breakfast. First trimester, got these dirty headaches that wouldn't quit. At the time i was afraid to take tylenols although the doctor said i could take them. I just didn't want to take any chances untill the headaches went up a notch. I would take one single regular strength to ease it up a bit.
- Lack of appetite.....Yuh see, for some people that might not be a problem but i love my belly and i am not exactly the biggest girl, i'm very small so i cannot afford to lose the little weight i have on my body. I love being small but dat doh mean i want to look like Victoria Beckham aka "Posh Spice". Not only did i lose my appetite but i found that i couldn't eat the things i once loved, such as; Chicken, rice, milk and yogurts.
- Fatigue....... Due to the fact that i have to wake up so often to pee pee, i was always tired. There is nothing worse than looking tired and rundung all the time.
- Lack ah do...... lol, if yuh doh get it i cyaan help yuh.
- Gas....I didn't appreciate that shit man lol. Thank goodness it didn't happen in the presence of strangers.
- PAIN...... I hate any kind of pain, even the mildest of pains. There was this pain i was feeling in the pelvic region, it was not excrutiating you know but it still hurt. According to them my uterus is stretching to make room for the baby. Sometimes it felt as if my vangina was stretching too. Speaking of Vjay Jay, i can no longer see it lol.
- Nausea....Although it didn't last long, i still didn't like it.
Those were little things i couldn't stand and at times they caused me to be miserable. Everything disappeared at the end of First Trimester with the exception of the bathroom issues and the missing appetite.
I'll save the Major discomforts for April. I'm sure i'll run into some different kind of issues.
Pregnancy is a bitch eh, my sexual appetite was normal untill clear blue made the answer to the question i've been pondering very CLEAR. After dat!!!! the urge to have sex gradually disappeared, i don't even remember what it feels like to be horny. I read the baby book and it did warn me but golly it didn't tell me that the word "sex", would make me cringe or want to vomit, LITERALLY.
Now i know how those ladies that have been circumcised feel. NUMB. I can't even touch my damn self (yes i said it, unuh stop act like unuh nuh play wid unuh self) cause it have no feeling down there, that crap is depressing.
I especially felt bad for Kwame cause that was a drastic change and you know men, they act like they will die if they go a week without it. Get all antzy and frustrated like a hardcore crack head.
I had hope though, because the book told me that second trimester i'd become a nympho, not in those exact words but. Uhmmmm, second trimester is over and i am still in underdrive. Watch me concentrating real real hard to see if i was getting a lil tingle down there. Tingle my ass, obviously that book wasn't refering to Orica's case.
Don't get me wrong, we still do the nasty but i'm still waiting for that nymphish feeling they discribed in the book and i am tired of hearing or reading how great sex is for people during pregnancy and oh i want him everywhere all the time. Keep allyuh shit to yourself. LOl yes i'm drinking some strong haterade right now.
I still have hope, i gots 15 mo weeks to go so and i will be home all day waiting.
P.S...Sorry Kwame, Kristen did tell mi to write EVERYTHING and not to leave out any DETAILS lol. On a serious note, thank you for being a trooper.
Before they couldn't careless if you're hungry or not but as soon as they hear the word "Pregnant".....are you hungry, do you want a piece of cake, icecream? and they never take no for an answer either. Your mouth must be moving at all times and that is the only way they'll have it.
A perfect example of this.
Kwame and i went to a house warming get together and the lady of the house was busy feeling up her dog on the couch, just in her own little world and i was chilling with the guys. One of the friends asked Kwame if everybody knows and of course people were like know what?. He told them that we were expecting. The woman put the dog down instantly and come over and gave me a big hug and well wishes. That was cool, it was when she asked me if i wanted something to eat i was like WTF? i been here for 2 hours and she didn't offer me squat all of a sudden she wants to feed me?
I kept telling her i was ok, because really i was. I ate at mom's before going to their house but you know determination is a biatch she didn't stop asking me if i was sure untill i gave in and accepted the ice cream. I saw her again at a house party and she had this weird look (kind a scary) and a baby voice "remember the baby will tell me if you are not giving her treats". In my head i was like what the hell is wrong with this psycho? I just smiled at her and walked off.
My teacher would hide and give me a sandwhich or a chocolate bar because the other students were wondering why i'm getting special treatment lol. That i didn't mind because by the time i get to school i was hungry so those sandwiches were helpful.
People also thought i was too small in size to be pregnant. Oh you have to eat more. UHMMM for what? I'm not hungry, i have no appetite so why force myself to eat?
Now i'm eating everyting insight and those people are nowhere to be found with the food steeeeeeeeeeeeeeups.
Tuesday, January 13, 2009
November 28 was a highly anticipated date not just for me but also for my friends. That was the day i would find out who i was bringing into the world.
If i told you i didn't care, i would be lying. I was always that kid who wanted 4 boys (don't know about 4 anymore). For sure girl babies are more fun but i wanted boys. As much as i wanted a boy i had a feeling it would be a girl. I wasn't disappointed or anything when i heard she was a girl actually i had a big grin on my face and i started imagining what life would be like with her. I loove, love combing childrens hair and dressing them up so i'm looking forward to it.
Mr. Man said it didn't matter as long as the baby is healthy and has all 4 limbs along with all fingers and toes, ears and nose and the eyes. No extra limbs added or taken away and i share the same sentiments.
So a minnie me, can you beleive it?. I feel sorry for this child, she doesn't have a chance at all, both parents are crazy plus the friends of the parents are also loony bins suh she done mad already. Po ting.
I think it was sometime in October. I had dinner at my mom's house but for some reason the food that i was craving so much (bush food; yam, banana's) wasn't agreeing with my stomach. I brought it all up aroud 8pm and my throat started to hurt so i went to bed. I woke up around 1:30 am vomiting again. It felt as if something was stuck in my throat and as a result of that i couldn't breathe as each time i breathe or try to speak it would hurt.
Kwame took me to the emergency room and i over exaggerated to the nurse a bit, just a tad bit, that i couldn't breathe, i mean i wasn't going to colapse or anything but i didn't want to be there forever, plus my throat was really hurting. The word triage will always stick in my head when it comes to emergency ( placing patients in priority sequence). Your case is considered emergency if you are bleeding to death or if you are having respiratory porblems.
So anyways before seeing a doctor i saw like 3 different nurses, I HATE it when i am not told what is going on. They just come and do what they gotta do and go back to chatting while i am dying ( or so i thought at the moment).
I did say there was a funny part to this story right? nuh worry man it ah come. So while i was sitting there grabbing my throat and trying to squeeze all the blood out of kwame's hands i remembered reading on baby center that my baby was probably the size of a medium shrimp ( i forget how many weeks i was at the time). So in my state of madness i started thinking, "what if .......uhmmm....what if it's the baby that is stuck in my throat"?. HAHAHAAAAAAAAAAAAAA. YES, People it crossed my mind i know, shameful. I know that it is not humanly possible but it crossed my mind. All yuh now beleive mi when i tell yuh i'm like public lunatic #1?. I couldn't even laugh at the thought, not because it was a stupid thought but because my poor throat was in serious pain. I almost shared the stupidity with Kwame but i kept my mouth shut because that would be more ammunition for him. I think he would laugh at me so hard and tell the whole world, so i kept to myself, untill now. I just remembered couple days ago and burst out laughing. Not quiet sure what de hell was going through my head.
I finally got to see the doctor and he gave me some kind of peptobismol. In my head i was like doofus i didn't tell you i have heart burn but i swollowed it anyway. Didn't help me non plus the strep test came back negative and they sent me home. I ended up with a sore throat for couple days.
Monday, January 12, 2009
When i tell yuh there is no control over your bladder, there is NONE. No amount of kegel excercises can help you either. When you have to go, you have to go and just when you think you can hold it for an extra minute or so, your belly starts to cramp and it HURTS. Sometimes when you do go to pee, it's only a likkle trickle. Can you believe that ish? all the pain and suffering for just a bloody trickle?.
I often joke that waking up every 2 hours to go to the bathroom is practice for when the baby comes but it wasn't a joke when i wanted to go back to sleep and couldn't.
Speaking of which, i only now realise that i do not wake up so often anymore. Whoop whoop. i really shouldn't be so excited because i hear there is a possibility of me pissing myself.
There were days when i pondered going to the drug store to buy a pack of depends because i just couldn't take it. Serious you know people.....but i didn't want Kwame to have such a thing over my head, it wouldn't be nice. I would hear it for the rest of my life.
Uhmmm sorry, I have to cut this one short cause i watching 24. Laterrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.
Sunday, January 11, 2009
Seriously, gas takes over your life, it tricks you into beleiving that your bump is growing untill you drink a cup of hot mint tea and as soon as you fart or burp the belly disappears. Do you know how disappointing that is?. Getting all excited singing my revised version of Fergies song. "My bump, my bump,my lovely baby bump" untill i let loose some air and the belly deflates. My gaawd.
At first i was embarrassed. K was like oh goooosh, she belly swell and now she lose she manners lol. I had to wikipedia gas and pregnancy for him to realise i wasn't doing it for spite but because i had no control over it. He is a wikipedia junkie so he will swollow whatever they say.
I was still in shock at the fact that i wasn't experiencing any morning sickeness. I thanked god because only he knows all the pain i've felt on a monthly basis with the menstral thing. I think he said you know what, i'll ease up on this poor child. Can i tell you that i do not miss this monthly menstruation thing at all? I don't even want it to come back, life is so much easier without it. No back pains, no big painful pimple on the nose, forehead or chin. No bad cramps. Happy redance as the kids in country would say.
Yeah man, my first and part of my second trimester i was like a walking helium balloon, just filled with gas. I used to run out of class just to fart and hold it in on the bus untill i get off, once i was in the house it was over, just one after the other.
Gosh thank goodness that it's over it is definately the most embarassing part of being pregnant.
Finally, the excruciating pain of waiting was over. I finally get to meet the OBGYN and most importantly i get to know if mi ah go mad or not. For the past couple weeks it was a running joke between me and K. We were like what if when i go to the OBGYN he says girl, get out my office you are not pregnant. LOL, Hahahaa, i would have been soo embarrassed.
We both went to see Dr.Nicholson, this cute old white haired man. He was very nice and informative. We went to the examining room and he checked me out and confirmed that i was indeed pregnant and told me what to expect in the upcoming months. He also scheduled me for an ultrasound and blood work a week later.
He asked me about my diet and asked me if i started on my Materna vitamins. He also suggested that i drank 3 glasses of milk each day. Dat kind a stress mi out for a bit, because (1) i had to tighten my braces and de friggin ting wouldn't allow me to drink cold milk or cold anything (2) Milk wasn't my friend for a bit, it would make me puke like a baby. Drinking warm milk with frosted flakes was the worse, do you have any idea how gross that is? sigh. he also told me how much weight i needed to gain by the end of my pregnancy. I knew i lost couple lbs from the whole braces ordeal and his secretary told me not to worry about it because some women loose their appetite in the first trimester.
Talking about appetite. I had non. I only ate because i had to.
I was the most happiest woman on October 14th. I got to see the little child. I didn't enjoy drinking that 4 bottles of water though. I thought my bladder was going to explode. Seeing this lil thing inside me flipping around was the most AMAZING thing EVER. I couldn't beleive it. I was like, there is really something there? the lady was like yup. I had to drop a tear. Yuh better know i went to the mall and bought the lil bambino a gift, a pack of onsies. Heheheee.
After that visit i felt sooo relieved. I could now share NOW!!! WHohooooooooo.
So i told the crew of girls, my mom and brother. Mommy was being mommy, yuh couldn't wait till yuh done school and get a job? lol typical parent i guess. My brother was excited, he's finally getting that neice or nephew that he's been asking for, for years.
My friends, oh my friends lol. There reactions were awesome, some choked me up. Rashida screamed, and she screamed some more, "we are going to have a baby" lol And then cuss bout how come i didn't tell her sooner.
Amanda's reaction was the most hilarious of them all. I told her i have something to tell her and that she should be sitting down. She asked me if i wanted her to call me. I told her she could if she wanted. She called and i told her. SCREAMS and more SCREAMS, i tell yuh this girl should be in one of those horror movies. She then got upset at the fact that everything is happening while she's away then she started crying because she doesn't want to miss a thing but then realised she wouldn't be back in Toronto untill July lol. She then started pondering. Her light bulbs went off and she was like ok, ok i'll be going to Trinidad i can pass by after trinidad, by the way, when is the baby shower?. I told her i could have the shower the first weekend in March. to accommodate her. She was like ok then, good i'll be there cause i am not missing everything. OH MY GOSH, WE ARE GOING TO HAVE A BABY!!!!!!! (not i Orica is going to have a baby but WE) and do you know the girl started planning the baby shower since then? came up with a theme and all lol. Her and Rashida just took it and ran with it. I tell yuh dem 2 are something else.
All my friends were happy for me and i felt sooo relieved it was like carrying a big tub of wet clothes on my head. Most people were in disbelief, shit even i was in disbelief. It still wasn't registering that i was going to be a mother, that i was carrying a baby.
Back to my dream that i can't seem to wake up from.
How could i be pregnant? i asked. My body is still the same, it doesn't look or feel different. I wasn't sick. I only had morning sickness for like 4 days. The only thing is i couldn't stay awake, i'd sleep on the bus, de train as i get to class i'd sleep some more. I'm a night bug and i couldn't stay up to save my life. Oh lets not forget about the frequent bathroom visits. Still i couldn't beleive that i have a baby inside of me.
I went through all kinds of emotions, lonely, frustrated, SCARED and more frustrated.
Lonely because we made the decision to keep it to ourselves untill we were out of the danger zone. Frustrated because besides the obvious sign of pregnancy, i didn't feel pregnant. Scared because i didn't want to have a miscarraige. More frustrated because i had just put on braces and i could barely eat food. I was feeding on boost, ensure, mashed potatoes and noodles.
One afternoon i got dressed to go to school, but for some reason i did not make it off the front porch. I sat on the steps with my head in my hand. A car pulled up and it was K. He was wondering why i wasn't in class and why i was sitting on the steps looking like one of the children from a UNICEF commercial. It was one of those days where i was frustrated and sad.
Someone directed me to Babycenter.ca, biggest mistake. It is only good for the weakly updates on where i am in my pregnancy and what my baby might look like. I think reading peoples experiences really contributed to my frustration. I remember when i was 10 weeks pregnant and these ladies were talking about feeling their babies kick at 10 weeks. Can you imagine what that can do to a girl and to make it worse i still haven't had my first appt. I started praying to god that my child was still alive.
Every little pain i felt in my pelvic region i'd get scared and pray that blood wouldn't follow. I later learned that the pain i was feeling was normal.
I kept loosing weight but i figured it was because of the braces. I could no longer eat chicken or brown rice. I started munching pickles. Before this i have never had pickles. I started craving fries with lots of ketchup. I hated ketchup before lol. I figured it was all about the salt, i indulged for a bit but then i cut it out.
I had to learn to eat all the time, i couldn't put it off like i used to. If i didn't eat as soon as i get hungry i'd get soo sick and start vomiting. Ginger ale and ginger beer became my drink of choice, it killed the little nausea i had.
The thing i hated the most started happening to me. I HATE, OBSOLUTELY HATE spitting. I was spitting all over the place and there is obsolutely nothing i could do to prevent it. ARGGGHHHH.
Although i hated the baby center i was still drawn to it. LOL the things we do to ourselves.
Den how yuh look suh sicky sicky, mi seh no mama
Sharon if ah pregnant yuh pregnant yuh cyaan stay here.
Not sure who remembers that old school reggae song. I still love it.
August 2008 was such a busy month that i didn't realise i missed my period and when i did realize i just thought my body was playing tricks on me because i got it twice in July.
The end of the month i started sleeping alot. I would be on the couch and just drift off, wake up and drift off again. I didn't think anything of it, i thought my body was just tired because i work at nights, go to school during the days plus taking care of my mom as she had a surgery on her right shoulder.
We both had a feeling i was pregnant but neither of us wanted to admitt it. Usually every month he would joke and asked if i was pregnant, but the month of August, there was no joke.
I had all the symptoms i usually get every month. The sore breast, the pimple that hurt so bad on the face, the back pain and the bloatedness. I still had some hope that it would come, i even thought it did come but i just didn't remember that it did. The unopen pack of Maxi told me different.
I knew for sure when i was cooking one evening and i could not stay in the kitchen, i ran up stairs and stayed in the room untill he finished cooking for me. It was funny how neither of us said anything, we just went about the rest of the day like normal. Labour day weekend i slept the weekend away, knowing i should go and buy a pregnancy test yet still holding out hope that my period would come. It's weird, it's not that i was afraid of being pregnant or that it would be the end of the world, i've always wanted to be a mother but the timing was just not right. I mean i'm in school and i just had an after school job to eat, buy bus fare and pay my bills. I was like damn why couldn't it be this time next year?
The Saturday after we decided to buy clear blue. I did the test, put the cap back on it and left it sitting in the bathroom, i told him he could do the honours of checking it. I was laying on the couch when he brought it and he was like girl you need to go an check yuhself cause you aint pregnant. He gave me the stick and what did it say? "PREGNANT", "EN CIENTE". Clear blue was as clear as day.
My reaction?. SILENCE followed by tears. Not sure why i was crying, i think i was having mixed feelings. Feelings of happiness but also not so happy feelings lol. He hugged me and ensure me everything would be ok and we promised each other not to say anything untill our 3rd month and first appt.
Boooy let me tell you how keeping such a secret was hard. I had to tell my uncles wife because i needed some direction in finding a OBGYN because my family doctor no longer delivers babies and where i live now, he didn't have referrals for that area. I had to call hospitals in my area and get OBGYN numbers. Gosh that crap is alot of work, it took me 2 weeks and still i end up out of my area because i realized Scarborough hospitals are ghetto lol. Soooo i called the North York General Hospital ( 15 mins from home) has the 2nd best birthing center in Ontario and i got the top 3 OBGYNs. I called my number one but i have issues when the secretary barely speaks English and i don't really fancy women Doctors at all, plus she was no longer accepting patients. Long story short, i called my top 2 and top 3 and left them both a message hoping my top 2 wasn't full. Number 2 called me back and i was a happy little camper because it is close to school, to K's work and right next door to the labs and hospital.
Oh by calling around i realized i was 8 weeks pregnant. EIGHT FLICKIN WEEKS and i had to wait untill i was 12 weeks for an appt. WTF? It was the longest wait everrrrrrrr.